Why You May Not Be So Swift at Making Decisions: An Introvert Ponders Pondering

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  It’s 9 o’clock at night and we are perusing the food options in the United terminal at O’Hare airport in Chicago. Packaged shrimp salads with strawberries and jicama; yogurt parfaits with granola, mango and bananas; roasted cinnamon and sugar … Continue reading

Why Is It So Hard to Say No to People? Introvert Guilt and Fear of Inferiority

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I spent last week vacationing and staying with people I had never met before the trip. We went out to seafood restaurants and gorged on oysters, shrimp, grouper and key lime pie. We lounged on the beach and inadvertently swam with … Continue reading

Self-Soothing and Not Giving a F*ck : Managing Your Own Anxiety Within a Relationship

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I had an epiphany the other day. If I don’t need the kids or my partner to validate me or help with my worries, then we can all relax. If I can manage my own emotions and self-soothe, then we … Continue reading

Please Don’t Watch, Observe or Scrutinize Me:Too Much Attention Makes This Introvert Nervous

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Cooking with your mate can be a loving and sensual experience. My guy and I usually sizzle in the kitchen but one time our interactions were a little burned and crispy. One sunny morning, I tried a new recipe involving poached eggs and … Continue reading

Do Your Friends and Family Think It’s Weird to Be an Introvert? Getting Past the Stereotype and Doing Work You Love

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I’ve had to stick up for my temperament and my writing many times. It never seems to get easier. I still feel I’m saying the words ‘awkward’ or ‘weird’ when I say I’m an introvert. I still hesitate to say I’m a … Continue reading

Are You Tired of Your Partner or Tired of You? Looking for a New Relationship or Looking for a New Self?

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  Very often we don’t go elsewhere because we are looking for another person. We go elsewhere because we are looking for another self. It isn’t so much that we want to leave the person we are with as we … Continue reading

Justifying Pleasure and Non-Tangible Work: Not Everything is About Productivity

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Others are quick to let you know what they find acceptable when it comes to how you  spend your day. You earned money doing it? Perfectly valid use of time. You made something useful? That will work. You did physical labor? Ok, … Continue reading

Energy Sources for Introverts: From Sleep to Supplements, I’ve Explored Them All

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I am always seeking more energy. I need it to be patient and active with my kids. I need it to get through the tasks and responsibilities of the day. I want it to be enthusiastic and warm with my … Continue reading

Letting Love Breathe: The Space That Makes an Introvert Relationship Erotic and Playful Again

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… the key to reviving romance in a long-term relationship isn’t necessarily to bring one’s partner closer but to let love breathe. Desire, Perel says, needs air. Romance is more exciting when we let our partners become a little unfamiliar to … Continue reading

Introvert Parenting Guide: Could You Just Play by Yourself Like I Used To?

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  Tree lights and Michael Buble’s Christmas CD keep me company in the living room as I thumb through catalogs and read nutrition articles. Jagged guitar riffs seep up through the floor from the basement where my oldest son practices on his … Continue reading