So You’re Not CEO of Anything. You Are Calming, Comforting and Healing: Valuing Your Sensitive Introvert Skill-Set

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I have never had the right energy or skills to command others to do things. I don’t have the instincts to be a boss. For many years, I thought it was better and more impressive to be in charge. I took classes and read … Continue reading

Surprises, Scones and Jane Austen. An Introvert Finds Herself Leading a Tour Through England

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Imagine you are a kid planning to attend a new summer camp. You are a little nervous about the situation because: 1. You don’t know anyone there. 2. It’s a long way from home. 3. You have never been there 4.There … Continue reading

Are You a Warrior or an Advisor? Seeking Glory for the Behind the Scenes Introvert

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Sometimes I cannot believe how lucky I am. The other day I was invited to a private tour of the Habsburg exhibit at the Minneapolis Institute of Arts. One of the museum’s esteemed curators, Eike Schmidt, PhD, led our small … Continue reading

Why You May Not Be So Swift at Making Decisions: An Introvert Ponders Pondering

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  It’s 9 o’clock at night and we are perusing the food options in the United terminal at O’Hare airport in Chicago. Packaged shrimp salads with strawberries and jicama; yogurt parfaits with granola, mango and bananas; roasted cinnamon and sugar … Continue reading

Why Is It So Hard to Say No to People? Introvert Guilt and Fear of Inferiority

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I spent last week vacationing and staying with people I had never met before the trip. We went out to seafood restaurants and gorged on oysters, shrimp, grouper and key lime pie. We lounged on the beach and inadvertently swam with … Continue reading

Self-Soothing and Not Giving a F*ck : Managing Your Own Anxiety Within a Relationship

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I had an epiphany the other day. If I don’t need the kids or my partner to validate me or help with my worries, then we can all relax. If I can manage my own emotions and self-soothe, then we … Continue reading

Please Don’t Watch, Observe or Scrutinize Me:Too Much Attention Makes This Introvert Nervous

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Cooking with your mate can be a loving and sensual experience. My guy and I usually sizzle in the kitchen but one time our interactions were a little burned and crispy. One sunny morning, I tried a new recipe involving poached eggs and … Continue reading

Do Your Friends and Family Think It’s Weird to Be an Introvert? Getting Past the Stereotype and Doing Work You Love

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I’ve had to stick up for my temperament and my writing many times. It never seems to get easier. I still feel I’m saying the words ‘awkward’ or ‘weird’ when I say I’m an introvert. I still hesitate to say I’m a … Continue reading

Are You Tired of Your Partner or Tired of You? Looking for a New Relationship or Looking for a New Self?

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  Very often we don’t go elsewhere because we are looking for another person. We go elsewhere because we are looking for another self. It isn’t so much that we want to leave the person we are with as we … Continue reading

Justifying Pleasure and Non-Tangible Work: Not Everything is About Productivity

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Others are quick to let you know what they find acceptable when it comes to how you  spend your day. You earned money doing it? Perfectly valid use of time. You made something useful? That will work. You did physical labor? Ok, … Continue reading