Are You a Warrior or an Advisor? Seeking Glory for the Behind the Scenes Introvert

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Sometimes I cannot believe how lucky I am. The other day I was invited to a private tour of the Habsburg exhibit at the Minneapolis Institute of Arts. One of the museum’s esteemed curators, Eike Schmidt, PhD, led our small … Continue reading

Why You May Not Be So Swift at Making Decisions: An Introvert Ponders Pondering

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  It’s 9 o’clock at night and we are perusing the food options in the United terminal at O’Hare airport in Chicago. Packaged shrimp salads with strawberries and jicama; yogurt parfaits with granola, mango and bananas; roasted cinnamon and sugar … Continue reading

Finding Someone Who ‘Gets’ You: The Electric Feeling of Connecting with Another Intuitive Thinker

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What is the thing you desire most in a relationship? What is the crucial piece you crave or must have in order for your heart to sing? After my marriage ended, I swore I would never be in another relationship … Continue reading

Why Is It So Hard to Say No to People? Introvert Guilt and Fear of Inferiority

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I spent last week vacationing and staying with people I had never met before the trip. We went out to seafood restaurants and gorged on oysters, shrimp, grouper and key lime pie. We lounged on the beach and inadvertently swam with … Continue reading

Perhaps You Need a Superior Man? Finding a Partner Who Can Handle Ups and Downs

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The relationship is new — less than one month in. The abnormal mammogram results arrive just as we are getting started. I hesitate to tell him because I don’t want to introduce ‘drama’ at this early stage. I end up … Continue reading

Disclosing Yourself Through Sex: How Revealing Are You?

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…if sexual intimacy has to do with disclosing yourself through sex, people who can let themselves be known have more potential for profound sexual experiences. — Dr. David Schnarch, Passionate Marriage How willing to be known are you? Does intense intimacy … Continue reading

Self-Soothing and Not Giving a F*ck : Managing Your Own Anxiety Within a Relationship

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I had an epiphany the other day. If I don’t need the kids or my partner to validate me or help with my worries, then we can all relax. If I can manage my own emotions and self-soothe, then we … Continue reading

Please Don’t Watch, Observe or Scrutinize Me:Too Much Attention Makes This Introvert Nervous

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Cooking with your mate can be a loving and sensual experience. My guy and I usually sizzle in the kitchen but one time our interactions were a little burned and crispy. One sunny morning, I tried a new recipe involving poached eggs and … Continue reading

Do Your Friends and Family Think It’s Weird to Be an Introvert? Getting Past the Stereotype and Doing Work You Love

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I’ve had to stick up for my temperament and my writing many times. It never seems to get easier. I still feel I’m saying the words ‘awkward’ or ‘weird’ when I say I’m an introvert. I still hesitate to say I’m a … Continue reading