Do Your Friends and Family Think It’s Weird to Be an Introvert? Getting Past the Stereotype and Doing Work You Love

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I’ve had to stick up for my temperament and my writing many times. It never seems to get easier. I still feel I’m saying the words ‘awkward’ or ‘weird’ when I say I’m an introvert. I still hesitate to say I’m a … Continue reading

What’s Your Temperament? An Introverted Idealist Talks Soul Mates

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Tyler approached me after my Myers Briggs presentation in his high school classroom.  A tall young African-American man with long limbs and a wide smile, he’d asked engaging questions and made validating eye contact with me during my speech. There were a … Continue reading

How to Handle the Fluctuations in Emotional Security and Closeness Within a Relationship

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There is an ebb and flow of closeness in relationships. The amount of emotional connection and distance fluctuates. I first noticed this with a crush I had on someone  years ago. I remember feeling anxious when our normally quite deep and … Continue reading

Are You Tired of Your Partner or Tired of You? Looking for a New Relationship or Looking for a New Self?

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  Very often we don’t go elsewhere because we are looking for another person. We go elsewhere because we are looking for another self. It isn’t so much that we want to leave the person we are with as we … Continue reading

It Takes a Village, Even for Introverts: Diffusing the Pressure of Being Everything to Your Mate

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  We sit around the wooden kitchen table laughing our asses off. The Happy Birthday banner hangs over the window. The smell of homemade chicken soup lingers in the air. There are seven of us gathered for this casual party. … Continue reading

Eroticism Requires Space. Are You Getting Any?

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Does the space introverts need in a relationship create an opening for better sex? Does too much intimacy weaken your sexual attraction? In the beginning… It seems every relationship starts out hot and heavy. You can’t get enough of each other. You … Continue reading

Introverts, Energy and Love: The Best of Space2live 2014

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What did I learn about relationships this year? What did I learn about introversion? Relationship revelation Looking for what you want can cause you to miss out on what you need. I had a complicated list of wants and expectations for … Continue reading

What Happens When You Take an Introvert to an Exquisite Party? The Before, During and After Effects of Socializing Gallantly

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Getting there Was I dressed appropriately? My date said, Jeans and a nice sweater, but it was a holiday party at a grand home on Lake Minnetonka with live music provided by a one-of-a-kind Steinway and an upright bass. That sounded like old-school … Continue reading

Letting Love Breathe: The Space That Makes an Introvert Relationship Erotic and Playful Again

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… the key to reviving romance in a long-term relationship isn’t necessarily to bring one’s partner closer but to let love breathe. Desire, Perel says, needs air. Romance is more exciting when we let our partners become a little unfamiliar to … Continue reading

Introvert Parenting Guide: Could You Just Play by Yourself Like I Used To?

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  Tree lights and Michael Buble’s Christmas CD keep me company in the living room as I thumb through catalogs and read nutrition articles. Jagged guitar riffs seep up through the floor from the basement where my oldest son practices on his … Continue reading