Self-Soothing and Not Giving a F*ck : Managing Your Own Anxiety Within a Relationship

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I had an epiphany the other day. If I don’t need the kids or my partner to validate me or help with my worries, then we can all relax. If I can manage my own emotions and self-soothe, then we … Continue reading

Please Don’t Watch, Observe or Scrutinize Me:Too Much Attention Makes This Introvert Nervous

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Cooking with your mate can be a loving and sensual experience. My guy and I usually sizzle in the kitchen but one time our interactions were a little burned and crispy. One sunny morning, I tried a new recipe involving poached eggs and … Continue reading

Do Your Friends and Family Think It’s Weird to Be an Introvert? Getting Past the Stereotype and Doing Work You Love

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I’ve had to stick up for my temperament and my writing many times. It never seems to get easier. I still feel I’m saying the words ‘awkward’ or ‘weird’ when I say I’m an introvert. I still hesitate to say I’m a … Continue reading

What’s Your Temperament? An Introverted Idealist Talks Soul Mates

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Tyler approached me after my Myers Briggs presentation in his high school classroom.  A tall young African-American man with long limbs and a wide smile, he’d asked engaging questions and made validating eye contact with me during my speech. There were a … Continue reading

How to Handle the Fluctuations in Emotional Security and Closeness Within a Relationship

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There is an ebb and flow of closeness in relationships. The amount of emotional connection and distance fluctuates. I first noticed this with a crush I had on someone  years ago. I remember feeling anxious when our normally quite deep and … Continue reading

Are You Tired of Your Partner or Tired of You? Looking for a New Relationship or Looking for a New Self?

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  Very often we don’t go elsewhere because we are looking for another person. We go elsewhere because we are looking for another self. It isn’t so much that we want to leave the person we are with as we … Continue reading

Incredible Traveling Opportunity for Introverts: Meet Me in Glastonbury England!

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Dear Readers, I will be traveling to the English countryside this May on a tour designed just for introverts! I am so excited! We will be staying in an old abbey that has been converted into lodging, bed and breakfast style. … Continue reading

It Takes a Village, Even for Introverts: Diffusing the Pressure of Being Everything to Your Mate

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  We sit around the wooden kitchen table laughing our asses off. The Happy Birthday banner hangs over the window. The smell of homemade chicken soup lingers in the air. There are seven of us gathered for this casual party. … Continue reading

Justifying Pleasure and Non-Tangible Work: Not Everything is About Productivity

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Others are quick to let you know what they find acceptable when it comes to how you  spend your day. You earned money doing it? Perfectly valid use of time. You made something useful? That will work. You did physical labor? Ok, … Continue reading