How to be Mentally and Emotionally Strong If You’re a Sensitive Intuitive Introvert

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At 2:30 this morning, thunder rolled outside my window and my nervous system kicked into high gear. Awakened by the storm, my mind clicked on and my chest and stomach responded by tightening and producing acid, respectively. I do not … Continue reading

Introvert Relationships: Exquisite One-on-One Time Is As Crucial As Alone Time

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I recently realized that one-on-one time with my significant other is as vital as time to myself. I need and crave both. They are on equal footing. I used to worry about asking a partner for alone time — so many still … Continue reading

We Are Quiet and We’re OK: Don’t Worry or Try to Change Us, Listening and Thinking Are Our Pleasure

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I’ve been on vacation this week. Six days surrounded by six other people, every day. It has been wonderful and relaxing overall but I have made some introvert observations. If you are quiet people do not hesitate to point it … Continue reading

Getting More Action by Speaking an Introvert’s Love Language

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A marriage counselor once asked my former husband and me what part we each played at the end of the Thanksgiving meal. Did we pop up and start clearing dishes or did we remain seated, rooted in conversation with other diners? … Continue reading

Kissing, Creativity and Solitude: An Introvert Finds a State of Flow in Summer’s Free for All

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It’s summer. My days are chopped up and writing time is elusive. My children are home and my actions are more reactive than self-directed. I miss writing and self-direction. My man has been traveling, entertaining and hosting his family. Our cozy routine … Continue reading

When Everyone Wants a Piece of You and You’re an Introvert: How to Handle Physical Touch and Maintain Connection In Your Relationship

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It’s the first week of summer vacation. The kids are home every day. My mom-friend and I decided we feel scattered. There is no routine or structure, just reacting to everyone’s current needs. Alone time is found in short drives to … Continue reading

Are You More Type A or Type B? Relaxed and Intrinsically Motivated Means More Fulfilled in the Long Run

Shaggy is an extreme version of a Type B but the image made me smile so I used it.

In the late 1950s, Drs. Meyer Friedman and Ray Rosenman began noticing similarities in their patients prone to heart disease. It was more than their diet and genetics. It was the similar ways they led their lives. Dr. Friedman noted … Continue reading

How an Introvert Adds a Significant Other to Their Life : Making Space for Relationships

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A 2014 study out of the University of Oxford found that we all seem to maintain a constant number of intimates, and when we add one, we drop one. While the number of people — what researchers call an individual’s social … Continue reading

Sapiosexuality: Curiosity and Intelligence, Two of the Biggest Turn Ons?

Purely gratuitous. I love John Slattery and thought he looked sexy smart in his glasses.

I was lit up mentally, spiritually and sexually. Spending the day privately touring the Minneapolis Institute of Arts newest exhibit turned me on. The curator’s detailed and delicious delivery of facts and folklore fed my brain. The intermingling of history, art, beauty, … Continue reading

So You’re Not CEO of Anything. You Are Calming, Comforting and Healing: Valuing Your Sensitive Introvert Skill-Set

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I have never had the right energy or skills to command others to do things. I don’t have the instincts to be a boss. For many years, I thought it was better and more impressive to be in charge. I took classes and read … Continue reading