Living with Negative People: Owning Your Nature and Growing Despite Them

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She never even knew she had a choice and that’s what happens When the only voice she hears is telling her she can’t You stupid boy Oh, you always had to be right but now you’ve lost The only thing … Continue reading

Part II: Introverts and Withdrawal: Why It’s Important to Limit It

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Last week I wrote about my deep need to withdraw . It’s been an especially difficult summer with my mother’s illness and eventual death, but this season is often stressful for me anyway because my children are home from school. I would not … Continue reading

Introverts and Withdrawal: Why We Do It

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Last week, I had an overwhelming desire to withdraw from everything. Like the mustard-hued sludge the EPA workers inadvertently released down the Colorado River, my emotions colored and flooded my mind. My mother’s recent death; the humbling number of edits necessary … Continue reading

What I Learned from My Extroverted Mother: How to Honor Someone’s Need to be Needed

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Heaven on a tandem bike My man and I had the most enchanted date. We rode his tandem bike to Minnehaha Falls, waving and ringing the bike bells (one on each handlebar) at everyone we passed. Did you know EVERYONE … Continue reading

How to be Mentally and Emotionally Strong If You’re a Sensitive Intuitive Introvert

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At 2:30 this morning, thunder rolled outside my window and my nervous system kicked into high gear. Awakened by the storm, my mind clicked on and my chest and stomach responded by tightening and producing acid, respectively. I do not … Continue reading

Introvert Relationships: Exquisite One-on-One Time Is As Crucial As Alone Time

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I recently realized that one-on-one time with my significant other is as vital as time to myself. I need and crave both. They are on equal footing. I used to worry about asking a partner for alone time — so many still … Continue reading

We Are Quiet and We’re OK: Don’t Worry or Try to Change Us, Listening and Thinking Are Our Pleasure

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I’ve been on vacation this week. Six days surrounded by six other people, every day. It has been wonderful and relaxing overall but I have made some introvert observations. If you are quiet people do not hesitate to point it … Continue reading

Getting More Action by Speaking an Introvert’s Love Language

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A marriage counselor once asked my former husband and me what part we each played at the end of the Thanksgiving meal. Did we pop up and start clearing dishes or did we remain seated, rooted in conversation with other diners? … Continue reading

Kissing, Creativity and Solitude: An Introvert Finds a State of Flow in Summer’s Free for All

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It’s summer. My days are chopped up and writing time is elusive. My children are home and my actions are more reactive than self-directed. I miss writing and self-direction. My man has been traveling, entertaining and hosting his family. Our cozy routine … Continue reading