How to Keep Emotions in Check and Create Stable Sensual Relationships: The Importance of a Secret Garden

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I have been called stable by two different men recently. It’s obvious they find stability highly desirable. I find the comment interesting because I don’t necessarily consider myself the stable type. I believe they simply caught me in a peaceful phase where I’ve … Continue reading

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Are You Struggling With Relationships and Long-term Endeavors? How to Break Out of the Slump With the Right Motivators

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Dating after my husband moved out was an intriguing learning experience. I’ll never forget the sheer curiosity and amazement I felt toward men at the time. I remember my first official coffee date. He arrived wearing a cute hat and just … Continue reading

What Happens When Others Need Us Too Much? : The Shadow Side of Sensitives and Idealists

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  With their talent for identifying with the other person, for slipping into another’s skin, Idealists find that building close, loving relationships is the most natural thing in the world… And yet such emotional sensitivity (some would say hypersensitivity) can … Continue reading

Please Don’t Be Serious. Be Fun, All the Time.

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The kids recently talked me into buying guinea pigs. We have one introverted and one extroverted guinea pig. One is brown, black and white with the most tufted and unruly fur. Her name is Pabla because my son really wanted … Continue reading

When Introverts Get Loud: Where Are You Using Your Voice?

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Have you ever made a remark within a group and basically been ignored and then moments later someone else says the same thing, only louder, and gets a round of cheers and a heap of credit? Isn’t that frustrating? When this happens … Continue reading

Ever Get Tired of Validating Your Introversion?

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My 14-year-old son and 10-year-old daughter join me in my home office. Their respective buses have just dropped them off after school and now they are sitting in the worn comfy chair and lounging on the scrumptious shag carpet in … Continue reading

Masquerading As Everyone Else’s Expectations: Finding Your True Identity As An Introverted Idealist

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Seven years ago, I found myself sitting in the waiting area of the music school my son attended for guitar lessons. The school’s owner had come out and greeted me with a kind gentle voice and then left. Within the quiet following … Continue reading

Introvert Relationships and Sensation Seeking: Being Your Own Amazing Soulmate Update

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In July I wrote a post titled, Introvert Stops Searching for ‘The One’ and Gets a Life: Being Your Own Amazing Soulmate. In it, I described my intention to stop dating for three months and focus on experiencing life’s riches … Continue reading

Sensitive and Introverted Does Not Mean Irrational and Weak: Valuing the Input of the Compassionate and Contemplative

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We are locking horns again over the way he treats others. His tone demands I argue with him in succinct direct points, show the logic in my beliefs. If I don’t or can’t, he is superior. But I’ve been on the ropes for … Continue reading