It Takes a Village, Even for Introverts: Diffusing the Pressure of Being Everything to Your Mate

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  We sit around the wooden kitchen table laughing our asses off. The Happy Birthday banner hangs over the window. The smell of homemade chicken soup lingers in the air. There are seven of us gathered for this casual party. … Continue reading

Justifying Pleasure and Non-Tangible Work: Not Everything is About Productivity

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Others are quick to let you know what they find acceptable when it comes to how you  spend your day. You earned money doing it? Perfectly valid use of time. You made something useful? That will work. You did physical labor? Ok, … Continue reading

Energy Sources for Introverts: From Sleep to Supplements, I’ve Explored Them All

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I am always seeking more energy. I need it to be patient and active with my kids. I need it to get through the tasks and responsibilities of the day. I want it to be enthusiastic and warm with my … Continue reading

Eroticism Requires Space. Are You Getting Any?

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Does the space introverts need in a relationship create an opening for better sex? Does too much intimacy weaken your sexual attraction? In the beginning… It seems every relationship starts out hot and heavy. You can’t get enough of each other. You … Continue reading

Introverts, Energy and Love: The Best of Space2live 2014

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What did I learn about relationships this year? What did I learn about introversion? Relationship revelation Looking for what you want can cause you to miss out on what you need. I had a complicated list of wants and expectations for … Continue reading

What Happens When You Take an Introvert to an Exquisite Party? The Before, During and After Effects of Socializing Gallantly

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Getting there Was I dressed appropriately? My date said, Jeans and a nice sweater, but it was a holiday party at a grand home on Lake Minnetonka with live music provided by a one-of-a-kind Steinway and an upright bass. That sounded like old-school … Continue reading

Letting Love Breathe: The Space That Makes an Introvert Relationship Erotic and Playful Again

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… the key to reviving romance in a long-term relationship isn’t necessarily to bring one’s partner closer but to let love breathe. Desire, Perel says, needs air. Romance is more exciting when we let our partners become a little unfamiliar to … Continue reading

Introvert Parenting Guide: Could You Just Play by Yourself Like I Used To?

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  Tree lights and Michael Buble’s Christmas CD keep me company in the living room as I thumb through catalogs and read nutrition articles. Jagged guitar riffs seep up through the floor from the basement where my oldest son practices on his … Continue reading

Is It Possible to Be Steadfast In an Introvert Relationship?: Trading Alone Time for a True Partnership

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I once read an article in Elephant Journal about a woman who claimed all she needed was a good f*ck and someone to pick her up from the airport. Now that, is keeping it simple. I think of her every time I park … Continue reading

What Would You Tell Your Younger Introverted Self?

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Dear Gentle and Incredible Readers, I spent my energy this week speaking to high school students about self-awareness and helping and hanging out with family for the Thanksgiving holiday. My sister, brother-in-law and I moved my mom into an assisted … Continue reading